My student fancies me!!!

Hello everybody,
I am a teacher in the senior section of a reputed school. I am 27, is happily married and have a 4 year old daughter. I keep a close rapport with all my students since it's very necessary to be friendly with teens to handle them.It's about one of my favorite students. He is 18...a very good boy, studies well, very well behaved,sincere in whatever he does and is always ready to help others. That's a quality I appreciate the most since its very rare in the new generation. I was the club convenor of my subject last year , I needed help since I was doing it for the first time and he gave me his maximum support. He helped me in making subject magazines, in arranging exhibitions (he draws beautifully), seminars, typing my notes. ...We were very comfortable around each other.But in a past one or two months i noticed that his attitude towards me has changed.He is no longer comfortable when he is with me, avoids my eyes while talking to me.But I have caught him staring at me many times while I am teaching. He becomes very moody if I talk and laugh with any other student. I am very much worried for him. He is my most favorite student. I can see he is distracted in class and that will definitely affect his studies. He told me his exams were ok but still I am worried. I can't believe the boy who laughed and joked with me easily a few months before has completely changed. I tried to talk to him, but he is avoiding me. Now its vacation time, in three weeks the school will reopen. He usually used to call me to clear doubts but now no calls..i haven't heard from him since the vacation started. It was one of my colleagues(also my best friend) who suggested that he may have a crush on me. I was very embarrassed. But the more I think about his behavior... I don't know what to do..how to handle him...pls help me with your suggestions.. I want my best student back...next year i want to see him in in his usual self..

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Jealousy or Justified?

Because my boyfriend will be reading this post, I want to make this sound as fair and unbiased as possible. He thinks I have a jealousy problem. I agree with him TO SOME EXTENT. The following are the facts of the situation:

1- My boyfriend watches Game of Thrones (which is a show with a lot of scenes which are not suitable for family, but a great story line)
2- My boyfriend is addicted to adult movies.
3- I am in a long distance relationship. I get to see him once a year, for a few hours. We skype once or twice a week.
4- Our relationship is 3 years old.
5- I get a little jealous when we finds other women pretty and I try to compete.
6- He admitted that Game of Thrones made him excited. Now he claims it has no effect on him.

Recently, I told him that I didn't like him watching this show. Because of his addiction, i felt that this show was unsuitable. I would have allowed it had I been there with him to watch it. At that point, I could have been there to cater to his frustrations. But seeing as how I get to see him once a year, I cant be there when he needs sexual release. At which point, he turns to such movies. He got angry and told me to get my jealousy under control and implied that I wanted to leave him for another man. Is he right? Or do I have the right to expect him to obey without a rude backlash if I ask him to stop watching the show.

Whoever reads this, please respond.
Thankyou.

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bad self-confidence

Please help me.I'm so unconfident with myself.
I think my years of life past such a waste.
I'm 23 but I still shy, have a bad communication with people, new people and even my family
I don't know what's wrong with me but I seem afraid to start conversation
I'm afraid of talking wrongly, like people misunderstand what i said
i want to take a job but I need someone to cheer me ..constantly..i don't even have a good friends, real friends
by my side. I don't know to whom to talk about my life, my ideas, my anything..
minus my family because we really have a live of our own eventhough we are living in the same house
we have bad communication..I don't know where to turn to everytime I want a person by my side
With my quite personality, how can I make new friends, and maintain my relationship...
I'm all alone...
I frequently cry for this problem on my own...
I feel like I want to go somewhere , live with somebody else, that would hear me...but where to...I'm so lost..

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Relationship problems..

I have been dating a guy for more than 6 months. We used to be in the same class last year and he was my best guy friend. We had endless topics to talk about and we even got in trouble a couple times for chatting too much during class. We're not in the same class anymore this year but I confessed to him a couple months ago and he accepted. Every time we see each other we basically don't have anything to talk about...so it's kind of awkward between us now...what should I do? I know if this goes on, our relationship will end soon. and I don't want this to happen...any suggestions?


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should i save my marriage or love

Hi,
its been 7 and 1/2 yrs of my marriage, but no kids. My husband is nice guy , in a nice company and on a good designation , i was also working . my married life was ok(not good) and evrything was fine. b'coz of some reasons my husband has to reallocate to some other city. For which i wasn't ready , i didn't want to shift .. leaving everything behind , our home , my job and etc.But i had to .. but i convinced my husband that .. i will shift in new city after 4 months as i was in middle of a project which will be finished in 4 months. So he agreed and he shifted there leaving me alone in our home ..
And from here my story starts ... I met a guy in gym .. who knew me .. and was deeply in love with me ... he also knew that i m married. .. and when i started talking to him(in a general way).. he expressed his feelings.. i thought may be he wants to take a advantage of me as my husband is not here . but i was completely wrong he really loved (still loves me) and wants to marry me in fact this guy is 6 yrs younger then me. After meeting him i realized the love ...as mine was an arrange marriage .. he made me feel like i m needed and someone wants me so badly..n really really loves me .. I also felt the same way for him..
And then the 4 months past ... i didn't want to move but i moved ... after convincing him and myself.. he told me he will bring me back and will marry me.. But here i m ..facing the truth that i m a married woman ...its been 2 months now in this new city ...and i want to go back and spend my entire life with him .. B'coz i don't feel a thing for my husband now .. and he doesn't even knw that .. with my husband i never felt that he really loves me or even love me..
My boyfriend still wants me and .. want to marry me .. and i also want the same..
plz help me .. advise me .. and suggest me ..

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Another problem - helpppppp

I was in relationship with a girl for the last four years.I met her 4 years back in my previous job.It was not a superficial relationship as we were too deeply involved both emotionally and to some extent physically.We used to know each and everything about each other daily to the extent wat are we eating , when are we sleeping etc.It was almost like a husband and wife kind of relationship.We used to care and do things for each other which no couple could do.
After one and half years of almost living together she went to pursue higher studies in other town and i was staying in other town.Even after that we kept on talking hours on phone everyday and many times visited each others places.We were too much dependent upon each other for small small things.
After completion of her higher studies she came to the same town as i m living in for her job which is quite hectic.We were planning our marriage and she even convinced her parents who later met me and my parents.
Last few days after she came to my town we were fighting on petty things.The fight between us grew bigger and bigger as time passed by.Even though we used to fight before also but after some time one or other used to say sorry to the other and the fights used to end.Last few days became very treachorous and we were fighting like mad.Also i became very demanding on her.
as she is a very outgoing and independent type of personality(bindass types) who does not think before doing things and i m a kind of reserved person who likes to take calculative steps in life, so whenever she used to hang around with her male friends i used to get possessive and didnt used to like it.
Then suddenly one day she told me that she has stopped loving me.She says that she doesnt feel for me any more and does not want to continue with me in life.I was shocked and shattered as i never expected this.
She says because of so much fights between us for so long she has really stoped feeling for me and if anytime she feels for me she will come back to me but she says she will always like to be friends with me.
It has been 6 months since she broke up with me.
I have tried talking to one of her friends and asked her about her sudden decision who told me
that she was not mentally prepared for marriage at that point of time and since i and she was fighting too much so she has taken a break.Also me fighting too much with her has made her rethink about her decision of marrying me.She wants to evaluate if i m the right guy for her or not and since her parents are not in a hurry to marry her she is postponing her decision and she doesnt know how will she do that.
She has since then has kept in touch with me.She calls lets say once in 20-25 days and tells me she is remembering/missing me too much and when i call her and ask her to meet me or talk about why we were fighting etc she ignores it.She always keeps on sayiing that she wants me to be like a friend and i should also go and enjoy my life rather than think about her.
I am in a dilemna as i m not able to understand her mindset.If she misses me then why dosent she want to come back to me.Also as i try to move on in life i get a phone call from her saying she is missing me or general talk and i became restless again.
Some of my friends say that she will come back to me in some time as her parents will try to get her married to somebody.Then only she will realize.
Some of my friends say thay she is trying to use me as a back up option in case she doesnt get better person than me.
Some say to give her time in life and i should not call her as this keeps on boosting her ego.
I know she is too emotional person and there is no other guy in her life.
i m thouroughly confused?
I am ready to talk to her about our fights and has communicated this to her but she says that she is not thinking about all these things now and she justs want to have me as a friend.But friendship is not possible for me.
Should i wait for her to come back?
Should i call her on regular basis or stop calling her?and stop attending her calls.?
If she misses me some time then is some love left in her for me or everythings over.
24 hours i keep on thinking about her and because of that i am not able to concentrate on anything. there are so many memories between us as i have said before we were involved emotionally and physically.
plz help.

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Big problem

Okay this is hard for me because I never share anything and for the last couple of years, I have lied so many times about this. It all started 3 years ago, I started dating this girl that I really really liked. I thought she was so perfect. She was beautiful, funny, and just made me happy in general but problem was she didn't like me as much as i liked her. We broke up on pretty good terms and we were on and off for about a year after that. Finally we broke up for good last year and we stopped talking for about two weeks. After that we started talking again. This normally wouldn't be a problem but I obviously still have feelings for her and I know she doesn't have any for me. We talked everyday for hours and I can never tell her how I feel because I know she doesn't feel the same way. Now she has a boyfriend and I just know she will start talking to me about him and I can't take it. Jealousy is really an ugly thing but I can't help my self. Anyway just a couple of things before I end this, I haven't dated anyone since her and I feel like I can't move on. Anyone have any advice for me?? Please I really feel helples.

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