I was in relationship with a girl for the last four years.I met her 4 years back in my previous job.It was not a superficial relationship as we were too deeply involved both emotionally and to some extent physically.We used to know each and everything about each other daily to the extent wat are we eating , when are we sleeping etc.It was almost like a husband and wife kind of relationship.We used to care and do things for each other which no couple could do.
After one and half years of almost living together she went to pursue higher studies in other town and i was staying in other town.Even after that we kept on talking hours on phone everyday and many times visited each others places.We were too much dependent upon each other for small small things.
After completion of her higher studies she came to the same town as i m living in for her job which is quite hectic.We were planning our marriage and she even convinced her parents who later met me and my parents.
Last few days after she came to my town we were fighting on petty things.The fight between us grew bigger and bigger as time passed by.Even though we used to fight before also but after some time one or other used to say sorry to the other and the fights used to end.Last few days became very treachorous and we were fighting like mad.Also i became very demanding on her.
as she is a very outgoing and independent type of personality(bindass types) who does not think before doing things and i m a kind of reserved person who likes to take calculative steps in life, so whenever she used to hang around with her male friends i used to get possessive and didnt used to like it.
Then suddenly one day she told me that she has stopped loving me.She says that she doesnt feel for me any more and does not want to continue with me in life.I was shocked and shattered as i never expected this.
She says because of so much fights between us for so long she has really stoped feeling for me and if anytime she feels for me she will come back to me but she says she will always like to be friends with me.
It has been 6 months since she broke up with me.
I have tried talking to one of her friends and asked her about her sudden decision who told me
that she was not mentally prepared for marriage at that point of time and since i and she was fighting too much so she has taken a break.Also me fighting too much with her has made her rethink about her decision of marrying me.She wants to evaluate if i m the right guy for her or not and since her parents are not in a hurry to marry her she is postponing her decision and she doesnt know how will she do that.
She has since then has kept in touch with me.She calls lets say once in 20-25 days and tells me she is remembering/missing me too much and when i call her and ask her to meet me or talk about why we were fighting etc she ignores it.She always keeps on sayiing that she wants me to be like a friend and i should also go and enjoy my life rather than think about her.
I am in a dilemna as i m not able to understand her mindset.If she misses me then why dosent she want to come back to me.Also as i try to move on in life i get a phone call from her saying she is missing me or general talk and i became restless again.
Some of my friends say that she will come back to me in some time as her parents will try to get her married to somebody.Then only she will realize.
Some of my friends say thay she is trying to use me as a back up option in case she doesnt get better person than me.
Some say to give her time in life and i should not call her as this keeps on boosting her ego.
I know she is too emotional person and there is no other guy in her life.
i m thouroughly confused?
I am ready to talk to her about our fights and has communicated this to her but she says that she is not thinking about all these things now and she justs want to have me as a friend.But friendship is not possible for me.
Should i wait for her to come back?
Should i call her on regular basis or stop calling her?and stop attending her calls.?
If she misses me some time then is some love left in her for me or everythings over.
24 hours i keep on thinking about her and because of that i am not able to concentrate on anything. there are so many memories between us as i have said before we were involved emotionally and physically.
plz help.
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