I have been dating a guy for more than 6 months. We used to be in the same class last year and he was my best guy friend. We had endless topics to talk about and we even got in trouble a couple times for chatting too much during class. We're not in the same class anymore this year but I confessed to him a couple months ago and he accepted. Every time we see each other we basically don't have anything to talk about...so it's kind of awkward between us now...what should I do? I know if this goes on, our relationship will end soon. and I don't want this to happen...any suggestions?
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Tuesday, April 30, 2013
should i save my marriage or love
Hi,
its been 7 and 1/2 yrs of my marriage, but no kids. My husband is nice guy , in a nice company and on a good designation , i was also working . my married life was ok(not good) and evrything was fine. b'coz of some reasons my husband has to reallocate to some other city. For which i wasn't ready , i didn't want to shift .. leaving everything behind , our home , my job and etc.But i had to .. but i convinced my husband that .. i will shift in new city after 4 months as i was in middle of a project which will be finished in 4 months. So he agreed and he shifted there leaving me alone in our home ..
And from here my story starts ... I met a guy in gym .. who knew me .. and was deeply in love with me ... he also knew that i m married. .. and when i started talking to him(in a general way).. he expressed his feelings.. i thought may be he wants to take a advantage of me as my husband is not here . but i was completely wrong he really loved (still loves me) and wants to marry me in fact this guy is 6 yrs younger then me. After meeting him i realized the love ...as mine was an arrange marriage .. he made me feel like i m needed and someone wants me so badly..n really really loves me .. I also felt the same way for him..
And then the 4 months past ... i didn't want to move but i moved ... after convincing him and myself.. he told me he will bring me back and will marry me.. But here i m ..facing the truth that i m a married woman ...its been 2 months now in this new city ...and i want to go back and spend my entire life with him .. B'coz i don't feel a thing for my husband now .. and he doesn't even knw that .. with my husband i never felt that he really loves me or even love me..
My boyfriend still wants me and .. want to marry me .. and i also want the same..
plz help me .. advise me .. and suggest me ..
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its been 7 and 1/2 yrs of my marriage, but no kids. My husband is nice guy , in a nice company and on a good designation , i was also working . my married life was ok(not good) and evrything was fine. b'coz of some reasons my husband has to reallocate to some other city. For which i wasn't ready , i didn't want to shift .. leaving everything behind , our home , my job and etc.But i had to .. but i convinced my husband that .. i will shift in new city after 4 months as i was in middle of a project which will be finished in 4 months. So he agreed and he shifted there leaving me alone in our home ..
And from here my story starts ... I met a guy in gym .. who knew me .. and was deeply in love with me ... he also knew that i m married. .. and when i started talking to him(in a general way).. he expressed his feelings.. i thought may be he wants to take a advantage of me as my husband is not here . but i was completely wrong he really loved (still loves me) and wants to marry me in fact this guy is 6 yrs younger then me. After meeting him i realized the love ...as mine was an arrange marriage .. he made me feel like i m needed and someone wants me so badly..n really really loves me .. I also felt the same way for him..
And then the 4 months past ... i didn't want to move but i moved ... after convincing him and myself.. he told me he will bring me back and will marry me.. But here i m ..facing the truth that i m a married woman ...its been 2 months now in this new city ...and i want to go back and spend my entire life with him .. B'coz i don't feel a thing for my husband now .. and he doesn't even knw that .. with my husband i never felt that he really loves me or even love me..
My boyfriend still wants me and .. want to marry me .. and i also want the same..
plz help me .. advise me .. and suggest me ..
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Tuesday, April 23, 2013
Another problem - helpppppp
I was in relationship with a girl for the last four years.I met her 4 years back in my previous job.It was not a superficial relationship as we were too deeply involved both emotionally and to some extent physically.We used to know each and everything about each other daily to the extent wat are we eating , when are we sleeping etc.It was almost like a husband and wife kind of relationship.We used to care and do things for each other which no couple could do.
After one and half years of almost living together she went to pursue higher studies in other town and i was staying in other town.Even after that we kept on talking hours on phone everyday and many times visited each others places.We were too much dependent upon each other for small small things.
After completion of her higher studies she came to the same town as i m living in for her job which is quite hectic.We were planning our marriage and she even convinced her parents who later met me and my parents.
Last few days after she came to my town we were fighting on petty things.The fight between us grew bigger and bigger as time passed by.Even though we used to fight before also but after some time one or other used to say sorry to the other and the fights used to end.Last few days became very treachorous and we were fighting like mad.Also i became very demanding on her.
as she is a very outgoing and independent type of personality(bindass types) who does not think before doing things and i m a kind of reserved person who likes to take calculative steps in life, so whenever she used to hang around with her male friends i used to get possessive and didnt used to like it.
Then suddenly one day she told me that she has stopped loving me.She says that she doesnt feel for me any more and does not want to continue with me in life.I was shocked and shattered as i never expected this.
She says because of so much fights between us for so long she has really stoped feeling for me and if anytime she feels for me she will come back to me but she says she will always like to be friends with me.
It has been 6 months since she broke up with me.
I have tried talking to one of her friends and asked her about her sudden decision who told me
that she was not mentally prepared for marriage at that point of time and since i and she was fighting too much so she has taken a break.Also me fighting too much with her has made her rethink about her decision of marrying me.She wants to evaluate if i m the right guy for her or not and since her parents are not in a hurry to marry her she is postponing her decision and she doesnt know how will she do that.
She has since then has kept in touch with me.She calls lets say once in 20-25 days and tells me she is remembering/missing me too much and when i call her and ask her to meet me or talk about why we were fighting etc she ignores it.She always keeps on sayiing that she wants me to be like a friend and i should also go and enjoy my life rather than think about her.
I am in a dilemna as i m not able to understand her mindset.If she misses me then why dosent she want to come back to me.Also as i try to move on in life i get a phone call from her saying she is missing me or general talk and i became restless again.
Some of my friends say that she will come back to me in some time as her parents will try to get her married to somebody.Then only she will realize.
Some of my friends say thay she is trying to use me as a back up option in case she doesnt get better person than me.
Some say to give her time in life and i should not call her as this keeps on boosting her ego.
I know she is too emotional person and there is no other guy in her life.
i m thouroughly confused?
I am ready to talk to her about our fights and has communicated this to her but she says that she is not thinking about all these things now and she justs want to have me as a friend.But friendship is not possible for me.
Should i wait for her to come back?
Should i call her on regular basis or stop calling her?and stop attending her calls.?
If she misses me some time then is some love left in her for me or everythings over.
24 hours i keep on thinking about her and because of that i am not able to concentrate on anything. there are so many memories between us as i have said before we were involved emotionally and physically.
plz help.
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After one and half years of almost living together she went to pursue higher studies in other town and i was staying in other town.Even after that we kept on talking hours on phone everyday and many times visited each others places.We were too much dependent upon each other for small small things.
After completion of her higher studies she came to the same town as i m living in for her job which is quite hectic.We were planning our marriage and she even convinced her parents who later met me and my parents.
Last few days after she came to my town we were fighting on petty things.The fight between us grew bigger and bigger as time passed by.Even though we used to fight before also but after some time one or other used to say sorry to the other and the fights used to end.Last few days became very treachorous and we were fighting like mad.Also i became very demanding on her.
as she is a very outgoing and independent type of personality(bindass types) who does not think before doing things and i m a kind of reserved person who likes to take calculative steps in life, so whenever she used to hang around with her male friends i used to get possessive and didnt used to like it.
Then suddenly one day she told me that she has stopped loving me.She says that she doesnt feel for me any more and does not want to continue with me in life.I was shocked and shattered as i never expected this.
She says because of so much fights between us for so long she has really stoped feeling for me and if anytime she feels for me she will come back to me but she says she will always like to be friends with me.
It has been 6 months since she broke up with me.
I have tried talking to one of her friends and asked her about her sudden decision who told me
that she was not mentally prepared for marriage at that point of time and since i and she was fighting too much so she has taken a break.Also me fighting too much with her has made her rethink about her decision of marrying me.She wants to evaluate if i m the right guy for her or not and since her parents are not in a hurry to marry her she is postponing her decision and she doesnt know how will she do that.
She has since then has kept in touch with me.She calls lets say once in 20-25 days and tells me she is remembering/missing me too much and when i call her and ask her to meet me or talk about why we were fighting etc she ignores it.She always keeps on sayiing that she wants me to be like a friend and i should also go and enjoy my life rather than think about her.
I am in a dilemna as i m not able to understand her mindset.If she misses me then why dosent she want to come back to me.Also as i try to move on in life i get a phone call from her saying she is missing me or general talk and i became restless again.
Some of my friends say that she will come back to me in some time as her parents will try to get her married to somebody.Then only she will realize.
Some of my friends say thay she is trying to use me as a back up option in case she doesnt get better person than me.
Some say to give her time in life and i should not call her as this keeps on boosting her ego.
I know she is too emotional person and there is no other guy in her life.
i m thouroughly confused?
I am ready to talk to her about our fights and has communicated this to her but she says that she is not thinking about all these things now and she justs want to have me as a friend.But friendship is not possible for me.
Should i wait for her to come back?
Should i call her on regular basis or stop calling her?and stop attending her calls.?
If she misses me some time then is some love left in her for me or everythings over.
24 hours i keep on thinking about her and because of that i am not able to concentrate on anything. there are so many memories between us as i have said before we were involved emotionally and physically.
plz help.
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Big problem
Okay this is hard for me because I never share anything and for the last couple of years, I have lied so many times about this. It all started 3 years ago, I started dating this girl that I really really liked. I thought she was so perfect. She was beautiful, funny, and just made me happy in general but problem was she didn't like me as much as i liked her. We broke up on pretty good terms and we were on and off for about a year after that. Finally we broke up for good last year and we stopped talking for about two weeks. After that we started talking again. This normally wouldn't be a problem but I obviously still have feelings for her and I know she doesn't have any for me. We talked everyday for hours and I can never tell her how I feel because I know she doesn't feel the same way. Now she has a boyfriend and I just know she will start talking to me about him and I can't take it. Jealousy is really an ugly thing but I can't help my self. Anyway just a couple of things before I end this, I haven't dated anyone since her and I feel like I can't move on. Anyone have any advice for me?? Please I really feel helples.
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I'm confused with Dual relationship.. help the wayout PLZZ
Hi ...... i am in a relationship for more than 6 years.. And amongst our friend circle we are known to be the best sample love couple. Everyone amazes at our love.. while my BF and i have always had the best time until now. i love him lot to the core. My BF is such a reliable, caring, faithful, flexible, adorable and loving person. i had an ex-BF 6 years back(In my Teens- so called infatuation ) and even my BF did have an EX-GF(Again Infatuation).We both knew about each one's past life very well and now we both are the real true lovers. Now the problem started from me- recently i received a call from by ex- BF and he told that the girl whom he loved had got married to another guy and he's left alone now. He also said that he was so depressed that he wanted some moral support from me.
I told all these stuff to my BF and my BF having so much faith in me, let me talk to that X-BF. At first i didn't even had a concern to that X-BF, i always felt like criticizing him by showing him -how well my BF and I are living now. That X-BF used to call me daily and we used to talk simply over phone for at least five minutes a day. Now a days I'm a little concerned about that X-BF. I feel like talking to him daily and feel like going out with him. Once i went to a cinema with that X-BF without telling my BF. And it was only inside the theater, i felt that i did a mistake- as i always used to keep my BF informed about my every move and this time i didn't . And even that X guy tried to sit closer to me. But only at that moment i felt that i'm gonna be a wife of my BF and not to this guy. Rather than that the X guy behaved diplomatically to me.
Despite loving my BF to the core why did i go out with that X-Guy, it was out of my control. I'm just trying to be his friend and don't want to be anything more than that to him.
Please advise me -- i cant figure out whats in my mind. And also now-days i don't talk to that X-BF as i m afraid whether talking to him will again change my mind and shatter my present beautiful love life.. as i love my BF a lot and don't want to hurt him and leave him at any cause... Kindly suggest me how should i go about this.. And thanks a lot for patiently going through my problem. Please advise me asap........ PLZZZZZZ
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I told all these stuff to my BF and my BF having so much faith in me, let me talk to that X-BF. At first i didn't even had a concern to that X-BF, i always felt like criticizing him by showing him -how well my BF and I are living now. That X-BF used to call me daily and we used to talk simply over phone for at least five minutes a day. Now a days I'm a little concerned about that X-BF. I feel like talking to him daily and feel like going out with him. Once i went to a cinema with that X-BF without telling my BF. And it was only inside the theater, i felt that i did a mistake- as i always used to keep my BF informed about my every move and this time i didn't . And even that X guy tried to sit closer to me. But only at that moment i felt that i'm gonna be a wife of my BF and not to this guy. Rather than that the X guy behaved diplomatically to me.
Despite loving my BF to the core why did i go out with that X-Guy, it was out of my control. I'm just trying to be his friend and don't want to be anything more than that to him.
Please advise me -- i cant figure out whats in my mind. And also now-days i don't talk to that X-BF as i m afraid whether talking to him will again change my mind and shatter my present beautiful love life.. as i love my BF a lot and don't want to hurt him and leave him at any cause... Kindly suggest me how should i go about this.. And thanks a lot for patiently going through my problem. Please advise me asap........ PLZZZZZZ
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Sunday, April 21, 2013
Help me!
Hi my name is Kola! I really need your help, we'll I belong to a sikh family. In my family there is mom, sister and dad. I have some problems with my dad. Well my dad says that he love us. But he never showed his any love to us in his whole life. He doesn't talk to us for Many days just because of no reason. If we ask him like tell me if there is my any fault that ur not talk to us. He would have no voice. I don't know why does he do that? And when ever me and my sister we are out with family or friends he has to insult us in front of ever one. No matter what he has to insult us, so then he can feel that I'm so cool. And he always says that do whatever I say to you guys and always respect me. Like what about mine and my sisters respect? Don't we have any self respect? He never ever understood us. Like I don't even know how fathers love is? I have never seen it. I'm 22 years old and I have never seen fathers love in my whole life. I don't know how to tackle this problem. Please help me guys! Thanks.
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Wednesday, April 17, 2013
Please help!
My name is Shola Aruloju .
I am 22years old Businesswoman,and in love with a 32years old man who is a medical doctor.
The problem is he is too old for me to keep as my boyfriend and I am too shy going out with him and leting anybody to know because of the age barrier, we so much love each other and I am confused of what to do.
Please help what can I do!
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I am 22years old Businesswoman,and in love with a 32years old man who is a medical doctor.
The problem is he is too old for me to keep as my boyfriend and I am too shy going out with him and leting anybody to know because of the age barrier, we so much love each other and I am confused of what to do.
Please help what can I do!
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